This article goes out to a friend of mine who asked me to explore and discuss this topic. With that said let’s talk about booty calls. We all know people who do them, and people who refuse to, but this happens every day here at Drake. One person decides they are bored or horny, and picks up the phone, and sometimes it’s even just texting. How lazy do you have to be?
Let me warn you that I know this can be very dangerous. I will admit that I have never been a victim or participant of a booty call, so I am just telling you what I hear and what I believe on this topic. However, I did get asked once in high school if I wanted to be friends with benefits. Anyway, in fairness, I will argue both the pros and cons of this controversial topic.
A booty call could be a great opportunity to get some while avoiding the time commitment of a relationship, along with all the drama that comes with it. However, time does play a key role in the booty call, seeing as how most of them occur in the wee hours of the morning after a drunken night at, say, Peggy’s. So, if you are willing to be woken up or to lose a couple hours of sleep, then maybe the booty call is for you.
Let’s start with the cons. It can be extremely difficult to draw the lines. How can you ever make sure that one of the people involved will not develop feelings for the other person? Well, it’s almost impossible. And if one person does, then the fun is done. Another thing to consider is your reputation—oncepeople know you as the booty call king, it’s kind of hard to change that or have a real relationship down the road. And you will forever be thought of as promiscuous. As I said before, late nights can be difficult to schedule around. Also, it can be awkward and just plain uncomfortable. I can’t imagine that, “Thank you, please put your pants on and go,” ever really goes over well. One cannot help but feel somewhat used. If this is someone who was your friend before, you also run the risk of destroying the friendship.
Now, let’s discuss the pros to the infamous booty call. This relationship requires little to no effort … OK, there’s a little effort involved, but I’m not going to get into that. If done correctly, or in the beginning, this “relationship” is no muss, no fuss. There is no need to go above and beyond, or demonstrate how you feel to the other person. Also a plus, there is no need for roses and romance, it’s quick and down and dirty. You do not need to commit yourself to someone, so you could still date others or mess around with more than one person. Plus, if you find a quality booty call, they are always there to fulfill your needs and usually gone within 30 minutes at the latest. But there has to be a mutual agreement that this is strictly “friends with benefits” or even “acquaintances with benefits.”
I do want to warn the ladies, especially, that this could be extra difficult because of all our emotions. When women become sexually involved, emotions are bound to catch up with you, and it is only a matter of time until someone ends up getting hurt, and, unfortunately, it is usually the girl.
So, in closing, booty calls could be loads of fun and exactly what you are looking for, but just be cautious and leave your heart at home.
Calder is a sophomore public relations major and can be contacted at jennifer.calder@drake.edu.
Eh…not the best article I’ve ever read. Okay, not even close. Your pros and cons seem to only be relative to your opinion about the matter. To a friend of mine, the pros would be completely different (a relationship that is purely sexual and physically pleasing.) She finds being in non-attatched relationships (and let me stress NON-attatched, which you argue is almost impossible to achieve) just as useful, and if not more stimulating than a romantic relationship in instances.
But to me, I couldn’t be in a sexual relationship without some sort of mutual emotional feeling. I’m in the best relationship of my life with a man I love very much. Sex is explosive. Literally.
A one night stand (before being with my boyfriend now) did nothing for me. It was not pleasing to me (not even sexually), and I got nothing out of the situation…even with a person who was supposedly the “man” for one night stands and hot steamy one-time encounters.
Everyone has their own ideas of how sex should be regarded, and with that being said,
Think about that.
Booty calls mean very different things to everyone as well as romantic relationships. Next time you write an article, step outside of your ideals and norms and think about what it really is at the end of the day: sex. What is it really worth?
I suggest using your “journalism” skills to research and report on facts and other student’s opinions about the matter instead of solely creating an editorial.
Thanks,
sexy drake student
Unlike “sexy drake student,” I thought this was a good article, and something that many people will deal with throughout their lives. However, I take some offense to your second to last paragraph. Only when women become sexually involved do emotions become involved? The way you put it makes it sound like men are emotionless, sex-only beings. I’m sorry, but that is completely sexist and untrue. Men have emotions too, and can also get hurt. Men can feel used for sex, and can also become attached to their sexual partners, and even, amazingly, can have feelings of “liking” and “loving”! I do appreciate this article, but I hate when people assume that only women can get hurt in relationships, whether they are just limited to sex or not. Men have feelings too, and women can be just as callous and unfeeling about someone else’s emotions.
stop hating on jen! its called an “opinion” for a reason. if you have one, then im sure the TD would love to have you write for them, too. my friends and i are big fans of her articles and dish about every new one that comes out. in my opinion, they are usually the most entertaining thing in the TD.
“I do want to warn the ladies, especially, that this could be extra difficult because of all our emotions. When women become sexually involved, emotions are bound to catch up with you, and it is only a matter of time until someone ends up getting hurt, and, unfortunately, it is usually the girl”
I found this section very offensive. You are implying women are biologically more “emotional” than men (this idea has been used time and time again to reinforce patriarchy and used as an excuse as to why women shouldn’t be in power positions- they will let their emotions cloud their judgment). Women can love sex, they can want sex with random men and not become attached just as the stereotypical “booty call king” can. I myself couldn’t only because I would get jealous and attached, but this does not have to do with the fact that I am a woman. I would advise you to be careful when making generalizations about gender; it is much more complex than you are implying.
Is this the current state of affairs at Drake, where one student’s opinions about “booty calls” is really viewed as current, useful conversation? Goodness, how times have changed!
I think the author forgot the whole part about how a booty call can end up as a sexual assault, or perhap rape? Now, given the recent happenings on and around campus, THAT would be both timely AND useful.